Some Things Must Remain Unsaid

A friend of mine posted the following on Facebook yesterday:

“I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ.” – Mahatma Gandhi

I drafted a post today that I am pretty sure I can never actually publish.  I felt it was a good post with some good points.  I didn’t rant, I didn’t get angry.  I just laid out a situation that I felt was wrong and wanted to explain why.  I got to the end of my writing and realized that nothing good could come from what I had to say.  In fact, it could lead to my family having to deal with things I would rather spare them from dealing with so, regretfully, I had to leave it in the draft box.

I think one of the main reasons I don’t write as much as maybe I once did is because I don’t feel like I can really say what I want to say.  It is deeply depressing actually because I have this internal struggle between exercising my rights as a U.S. citizen and having people I care about suffer the consequences stemming from what I have to say.  My natural reaction is one of “Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead” but these days my combative tendency is overridden by my desire to not cause my family any undue stress.  The end result is that I keep my mouth shut and my blog un-updated more than I would like.

I wish I lived in a world where we really were judged by the content of our character.


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Some Things Must Remain Unsaid — 4 Comments

  1. It’s a hard line to walk between your beliefs and worrying about your family.

    I have a hard time imagining what you could write that could cause your family trouble, but I will just say this:

    One of the big problems that we have with religion is that most people choose not to question it so as not to cause trouble. It’s easier.

    That said, I trust you made the right decision for you, but I must let you know that I now have a “mental bug” thanks to this post where my brain wants to know what you would have written but know it may never find out. 🙂

  2. Mostly it has to do with some experiences my family has had with relationships with some other people and other families and how those relationships have changed or have been completely severed because of our beliefs or lack thereof. I want to talk about the hypocrisy I see on a regular basis but I also don’t want such discussions to negatively affect my wife and daughter. Our non-belief isn’t exactly a secret but being too open about it could be troublesome. I think it sucks and the behavior of certain people who give lip service to their religion is entirely un-Christlike.

  3. An easy, pain free solutiion is to have a separate, totally anonymous blog where you express all of those controversial and difficult things, that you are concerned might impact on your family. Done! 🙂

  4. Yes, I have considered that but ultimately I just didn’t want to do something like that completely anonymously. I don’t have a reason why but maybe because it wouldn’t feel real to me?

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